Fall in Love with Your Spouse All Over Again

Although my situation is unique, there are other avenues you can explore that may give you the same outcome. For example, write a love letter to your significant other and ask them to reciprocate. The words you read or write could ignite that initial spark you once had for one another. Who knows, these “love letters” might even become a habit between the two of you.

 This next idea sounds simplistic, but it can work: have a long, positive conversation together. Do a little preparation ahead of time and write down some questions or topics that will guide the talk to a positive place. This conversation is not the time to discuss the kids, work, or problems—leave that for another day. Keep the chat about the two of you (e.g. your history together; your feelings for one another; what you really like and appreciate about your mate; happy memories together . . . etc.).

 Carve out some time from your busy schedules, pop some popcorn, and watch some home movies together. Relive your wedding, the birth of your children, your vacations, and other happy times you captured on video. Talk about how you felt during those periods in your life and remember the good times.

 Schedule a game night and play your favorite board game together—just the two of you. Better yet, play a game of twenty questions and don’t shy away from any topic; one rule, however, keep it positive! Ask questions like: “What’s your favorite memory together?” “What first attracted you to me?” “If I was a character on (insert your favorite show) who would I be and why?” “If we could go anywhere in the world for a romantic vacation, where would you like to go?” You get the picture.

 Falling in love with your mate is a choice. You can continue with your current routine or try something different. What will you choose to do?